Hi Ladies, I know it's Monday... I know it's tough for most of us and I know, also, that, you deserve to begin your week with a major dose of motivation. You may have noticed that I know a lot of things... well, it's so easy for me... I've just read the calendar.. and check how I feel... and the result is... not so well.. Let me clarify what it means: I had a weird week end with a pretty serious injury that let me groggy and unable to walk without falling down... Just a trick: do not neglect your back muscles and massage them as often as possible... when they become too tight they could have a bad impact on your nerves and let you like a tissue doll. At least, it's not sexy and, at the end of the day, it hurts. Well, today is another day and I did not want to let that "stupid" event to give up on my own purpose, on my own health and more importantly on my own unicity... On the contrary, I took a couple of minutes yesterday evening to list every tiny bits of positivity that happened during my week end. That exercise has given me an idea for today's post about motivation. Being positive all day long, all year long is something very uncommon for me, unusual and even weird for my own state of mind.. Despite that state, I know that being more positive could become a great asset for my own health to reach a more balance way of life. So how could I bring everything together and live more passionately more intensively without feeling like a fake? How could I stay who I am and improve my own perception of lit? How could I be a better version of myself when it's tough to know who I am already? This is a big challenge that we all have to face when it comes to improve our perception... This is tough to provide just one answer to solve every situation, but, at least, I could tell you what I've done and hope that it may inspire you. FIRST STEP: When I feel blue, I have the natural tendency to stay focused on my own problems and feeling like: if it happened when I was young, it has to happen forever in my adult life.. I can't change anything and I don't have the right to fight for a different issue... WRONG!!! ------> In fact, I'm more aware of the ability that we all have to change our destiny, to change our mindset and to reframe what we think about ourselves. The very first step to being that major change is to fully agreed with the idea that what we lived in our childhood do NOT have to determine what we could do as an adult. You have gained experience, you have more strength, you have more abilities that could be used on a positive way. SECOND STEP: if it was called by somebody I respect for, I has to be something good for me so I do not have the permission to reassess it according to my own wishes or my own sensitivity. WRONG!! -----> That is one of my major issues... I have a strong... I mean a very very strong respect for teachers, officers, parents, family...etc... And, it takes a lot of energy, for me, to imagine that I could act differently, that I could do, think, or believe on my own way AND THIS IS ABSOLUTELY CORRECT... I'm not a "bad girl" if I choose my way and not the following path that others want. THIRD STEP: finding a balanced life is easy to reach, if you can't, it means you're just a failure and you don't deserve more in your life than struggles and tough times.. WRONG WRONG WRONG!!! -----> I'm like an electric circuit, it's on or off... I love or I hate... I will do or not... Yet, that yes/no position could lead me to very harmful moments because I believe that my environment will act like me. So if I treat somebody nicely, I hope that I will be treated nicely. Hum.... how to say that nicely... It is not true... I mean, we're far away from that. In fact, finding your INNER balance perception is a life travel to feel more and more in peace with your own weaknesses and your own strengths. You ALREADY are in balance, you do your best everyday and you deserve to be proud of who you are right now. What you may have to do is to keep going on your path, keep improving your level of conscious to feel more relaxed and be able to deal with more different issues. Hi Ladies, This is a huge launching for my new types of articles... In fact, I wanted to be sure to make it very special.... cos' it means a lot for me and for the path we are actually sharing. When I've thought or dreamt about that website.. I wanted to make it funny, uncommon, useful, collaborative... I wanted to build a community that could reach the same feeling because we were sharing the same struggles... Being a woman, having a wonderful resumé, working 60 hours a week and thinking about dealing with demands from friends, from colleagues, from family... house working, grocery, laundry, and much more... This is too much on the plate for every one... even for ME and YOU. This is why the website is born! My dream was to disseminate a sense of peace, a sense of joy, a sense of empowerment, of strength or more importantly of pride... Being proud to be who you are, being proud to be unique, being proud to be different and celebrate your unicity. When you admit it, it becomes easier to work on your dreams, to focus on what you want, to tackle each goal that you may have in your head. It is your time to feel amazing, it is your time to feel fantastic, to feel happy and relieved to go through your to do list, to build your own dreaming life and getting rid of guilt or fear.. I know you deserve it... I know you can do it, I know we can overcome your fears... You have so much power inside you and it is YOUR time and your responsibility to think about it regularly. Embrace who you are, Be proud, Be who you want to be... Hi Ladies, It's finally Wednesday and it's time for our weekly dose of wellness... As I told or well...wrote you yesterday, there are a couple of techniques that may help you to deal with guilt as well as with that overwhelming feeling of failure. Today, I want to share with you some techniques, I'm able to use (mostly on a daily basis) to try to reduce my level of guilt and my level of stress. To be fully honest, I am what is called a "people pleaser"... I mean it's like I'm almost obliged to help everyone, to take care of everybody I love...no matter if this will place me in an unwanted situation.... That unwanted situation is "just" a lack of time, a lack of energy or, more annoying, a lack of hope, a lack of envy, a lack of motivation, a lack of dream ability... Those lacks are not lethal... happily... Yet, those same lacks could cause some major tolls on your own life, on your own ability to build your dreaming life and on your own potential... Just as if you have to make a choice between your private life and your professional life and your creativity. This is particularly unpleasant, according to my opinion. So...here we go... We are digging deep into what you could use to overcome your natural tendency to please everyone:
There are other techniques that you could use to stay focused and connected with your needs and to get rid of your guilt... Comment that post if you want more. Remember that Obviously B. is your place to cherish yourself and reach your own potential. OH.... and... let's have a look on cherish-yourself.jimdo.com for my Hi Ladies.. Oh my Goodness... How could this be humanly possible?? I missed the day... I mean... We are Tuesday and I should not post on Tuesday... But, yesterday was so frenetic that I was barely unable to breathe and think about some me time... Today's topic should be: How to deal with errants in a normal day life? Last week end, I was looking at the end of a video series about delegation and smart success by reframing almost every piece of our life... For the most part, I may agree with the content because...to be fully honest, I'm running like a rabbit against the clock... just as in Alice in the Wonderland. This IS NOT the life I want to live by... this is NOT what I deserve and this is NOT what I want to share with you, neither the life you should be dreaming of, nor the overwhelming feeling of "I have to do more" each day. Even if you are able to master your schedule, to tackle your professional to do list, to manage your duties and chores each day... There are still more demands, more errants that pop up into your daily squared schedule... How to deal with that??? At the first sight, it seems easy... you do your best to satisfy every body AND you give up on your me time, on your dreams and on your creative/faith/family time.. It could work.. I know it... I've done it... Yet, it could not last too much time... your mind, your health, your body will scream and yell at you to stop, right now!! At tough as it is, this is the signal that you need to stop, to relax and to reevaluate what YOU want in your life. I know that there is some non negotiable time like grocery, laundry, house working, cooking or what ever you have to do... Yet, you still have a couple of hours in your day that could be use for YOU and ONLY YOU (Don't worry, i'm not gonna sing...) One of the easiest way to do that is to get rid of guilt to please anyone except you... There are several ways to do that... But I'll give you more about these techniques tomorrow in our wellness wednesday post. Feel free to share, like, comment and ask for more.. Remember that Obviously B. is your place to cherish yourself and reach your own potential. Hi Ladies, Thank you so much for your amazing support on Monday, you've reached sky high ... I'm blessed to be a part of our community and I wanted, to the bottom of my heart, to thank you for the time you put into YOUR life, into YOUR dreams, into YOUR potential by reading, sharing, commenting my posts.. I hope you feel like at home, talking with a friend..right an old friend...and finding answers and/or solutions to YOUR issues... I'm not here to talk about me but to share what I'm been through and help you to manage it easier than I did. Today's adventure is about wellness... (what a surprise, it's post's title..) How wellness could become a part of who you are and why this could be very important? When I was a teenager (I know it was during the previous millennium....), I've heard my friends (especially the girls) talking about hours and hours in the bathroom, having fun to paint their nails, trying new outfits, shopping and thinking about the new "à la mode" coffee shop to go... Honestly, it was soooooo sooooo far away from my wish, my beliefs... and I did not realize that my friends were actually building their own confidence by thinking more about their positive image and their self esteem... Several years after...My position remains the same..or almost.. Taking care of myself was a lack of time, a lack of money and a lack of importance... I do not care about my appearance and, honestly, I could go out without a piece of make up... what's the big deal?? I know I will not become a diva or superwoman of make up or no matter how you call it.. But, I've seen that it could be easier to deal with tough moments when I could take time for my self for what I Like to do... to pamper myself... It means...brushing my hair and making crazy japanese style haircut... or working out like an animal with hard rock music.. According to my experience, when I do some things that I enjoy, I've got a rush of endorphins... the happiness hormones and I feel less angry, tired, sad or depressed... Just give it a try... Ladies, It's time to share, comment, like and ask for more... Remember that Obviously B. is your place to cherish you Hi Ladies, Here comes a new day, a new week and a fresh start... As I told you earlier, that morning, here is the second post of the day... THE post you've been waiting for... (or at least I hope the post you will enjoy to read and share with others) Yesterday, while I was watching a one hour seminar presented by a pretty famous US fitness trainer/social media expert. The lady was talking about the life we deserve and what kind of changes we have to make if we truly want to live a better version of our life... Until now, that sounds absolutely great and fantastic and so true... During her presentation, she emphasizes the need of clarity and, apparently, according to my knowledge, the need to follow a very detailled to do list... Basically, I totally agree with the ideas... Yet, as usual, I believe that those experts are missing a step... maybe the crucial step... I've used to follow their principles but I've never been able to implement them on a long period of time...
Those same core values that I talked last week... It's only when you are able to know what you've made of, what are your qualities, what are your strengths and your weaknesses that you could build new strategies above them. According to my experience, to heartfully believe in what we are, we need to repet... as often as possible, the list of our qualities.. this is one of the easiest way to reinforce your inner ability to feel strong, unstoppable, fantastic and peaceful. What is absolutely amazing when you try that... you will reinforce your motivation... When you are more motivated, you could feel more capable of claiming your needs, be proud of your qualities... and so on... It's now time to apply that strategy for yourself... Wish you all the best, Ladies. Feel free to share, comment, like and ask for more Remember that Obviously B. is the place to cherish yourself and reach your own potential. Hi Ladies,
Today, I'm gonna write two posts.... I've got quite a lot of things to explain and I don't want to mess everythingg by writing just a long long post without a piece of structure.. Well, here we go for the first post. After my first 100 day challenge, I was wondering how I could manage that website to keep it very informative and very useful for the readers.. I hate getting bored while I'm following somebody's adventure... That's why, I've thougt about a new type of organization to make it easier for you to read and for me to write/record/post... Follow the new recipe:
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How do you feel today? The week end is about to begin in a couple of hours, depending on where you are actually living... I can't wait to wish you a wonderful week end with a lot of joy, hope and fullfilment. We've already talked about week end and how I'm used to use it as a time for preparation or assessment... Yet, I wanted to do things quite differently... because yesterday, I've met somebody that will help me to deal with emotional issues... While we were talking, I'm realized that most of the time I spent is a form of constraint.. with full of "I have to" and "I must" or "You'll never have the right to"... Not very entertaining... hum... In addition, we are 81 days before 2014 so... it means I still have the time to implement a new habit or two at a time... I know I'm crazy... Some times, high levels of stress lead us to a machine mode... We become only like automat who run their duties no matter what happens.. My goal during the next 66 days is to reduce drastically my level of stress by feeling more aware of my needs... I'm truly convinced that if I'm able to stay connected with my needs, I'll be able to share more positive tips and tools with you... Knowing our needs is not an easy step, especially, when we have lost our core values for a long time... Here is the way I used to get back on track.
Ladies, feel free to comment, ask for more, share, like... Obviously B. is the place to be to Cherish your self, Love who you are and Reach your own potential Hi Ladies, That day has begun in a weird way... I woke up at 2 AM and I was unable to sleep more ... I'm not at my best right now... but, who cares.... It is just temporary and I know things will have to evolve in a way or another. The ones who know me for a while are aware that I'm not very optimistic and that I truly have to push myself harder to think positively... That's why, today's adventure is about believing... How could you believe in something great, higher, better when you realize that every single day of your life you have to struggle with problems and issues? I mean "real" issues... not the kind of problem like... "japanese or italian tonight?" or "diamond ring or emerald solitaire with my haute couture dress?" In my opinion, believing is a form of hope and hope could be your best or your worst enemy when it comes to build self confidence, self esteem or self respect... It's easy to slip into the new age, bobo talking... "when you want, you can... "... Well, in theory, that's true..yet, things are not as easy as a proverb... Reality comes with emotions, feelings, struggles from past.. and, when past has taken a toll on who you are in the present... It takes more than dedication, commitment and willingness to succeed... It takes TIME and PATIENCE... It takes COURAGE and more importantly, it takes you to assess your NEEDS and your GOALS in accordance with WHO YOU ARE... Ladies... Feel free to share, like, comment and ask for more... Obviously B. is the place to be to cherish yourself, love who you are and reach your own potential. Hi Ladies,
I'm so pissed today.. I had to deal with so many delays and constraints.. and upset situations from Monday that I'm not sure to be completely sane... Well, today's adventure is about... dealing with my stress level... I know, I know.. Everybody has to deal with issues from time to time.. this is perfectly normal and I KNOW that! But, to be fully honest, I'm not that kind of person who has the luck to grow in a classic, loving, caring family... only thinking about my outfit or my next vacation... It was thinking about paying bills, finding a job as often as possible and trying to help my mother thru my dad's mourning...lacking a lot of money.. and even more... That situation has definitely taken a toll on the way I'm able to deal with stress right now!! I'm scared to death to try new things, to think outside the box or do unusual actions... I'm introverted and maybe too conservative.. I'm been raised in believing that Justice is a high value... that Honesty is a virtue, that Kindness is something to develop... Unfortunately, it appears that... world is quite far away for that reality I grew up with... I'm like a muppet trapped into a supernatural world... I feel so sad.. about waiting for somebody's wish or act... I'd be so happy if you could share your experience with me.. I know you've been thru that kind of time in your life... It has to be temporary in order not to become insane... Ladies... Feel free to comment and share that message... Cherish you self, Love who you are to Reach your own |
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