Hi Ladies, How are you today? We're already Friday and week end is about to begin in a couple of hours.... I hope you'll enjoy your time off and have the opportunity to share that time with good friends and relatives. Today's lesson is about momentum. I know I know we've talked about that feeling/emotion/.... (named is as you want) but it appears that I need to bring my memory back... September is about to begin and, as a lot of you incredible ladies, I've decided to give myself all I need/deserve to have a fresh start and to succeed in my goals or dreams. Yet, I have to overcome a little not so easy issue... I was sick almost all the month. As a consequence, I've only been able to walk or walk... It's definitely not enough to burn huge amount of calories. As a second consequence, I've lost a lot of motivation/organization and I'm feeling as a chicken without a head running from place to place... unable to know where I should go. I know,... it's just temporary and the worst part is always the day 1.... Beginning a new regimen or a new healthy routine can drain a lot of energy and be a little bit overwhelming. Nevertheless, I'm sure that it worth the investment. That's why, I'm gonna share with you three tips to feel more confident in your new healthy/efficient YOU:
Take care Ladies, Love u.. Feel free to share, like and comment... Hi Ladies, It's busy crazy today and I don't want to let you down so I decided to shorten my post today but to provide you what everyone needs in this world: LOVE... Be kind with yourself, love your defaults, love your unicity, love your mistakes and learn from them to become a better version of yourself. Love is the soil of all the positive feelings you could provide in your life. To become who you want, you should at first love every tiny part of you!! Take care La Hi Ladies, A couple of times during the year, I feel the momentum or the excitement to make my life easier, stronger, faster, _______ (fill the blank with your obsessional trick) To reach that level of efficiency, I turn myself into a machine that tackle goals, make to do list every hour, think about time time time... like the white rabbit of Alice in the Wonderland. At the end of two or three weeks, I feel exhausted and I realized that I tend to become like a mechanical brain that only work work work... without a piece of feeling, fulfillment or joy. Then, I throw the baby with the water bath (hum.. I know it's a pretty cruel comparison but it's true).... I've got a phase 2 which is completely full of procrastination... nothing goes as I wish and I feel guilty or ashamed by my own reactions... STOP!!! I'm fed up with those upside down roller coaster behavior... I deserve more than those feelings of guilt/shame or overwhelming feeling of never doing enough today/ you should have done so much more because you are in fact too lazy... You've heard that before haven't you? It's horrible to think that the answer is probably YES because we are more than just a to do list or a list of goals. Disclaimer: I'm still a huge addict of to do list and goals tracking, yet I want to emphasize the need for every high achieving woman like you that you should never become a slave of those tricks to feel alive. In fact, we have to use those tools for what they are... only tools.. It will take time maybe but I beg you to adjust your schedule as often as needed to find a balance between your private life, your professional life and your passions. Never underestimate your needs, your passions and your spouse/wife/children/dog/cat... Today's lesson: One of the easiest way to cope with your natural tendency to do more (I mean MORE MORE than what is humanly possible) is to stay focus on your core values and on your priorities. Take care. Love u Ladies. Feel free to share, like and comment. Hi Ladies, How are you today? Is it still the holidays or are you back to work?? At that time, I'm planning my next year because I'm finally in a "not so comfortable position" that leads me to think clearly about the direction I'm taking. It seems a little crazy or out of the loop but after more than four years of anxiety, stress... and well a PhD I feel a little bit "desperate" without being a housewife. In fact, I'm very impatient and it takes me a lot of effort to relax and feel less stressed about the future. So, I decided to use some tricks and tools to think positively about my future... which means to know what I'm going to do, where I want to live, what kind of job I'm ready to apply for and more importantly I have to admit that academic jobs are not so easy to find. Today's lesson is about dreaming your ideal life. I'm not a huge fan of hope in my life because hope may turn into deception. That could be pretty tough to manage when I lack confidence or when I feel blue. Nevertheless, I admit that projecting positive thoughts is a great way to reframe your brain, to make up your mind and to become aware of your own possibilities. In fact, when I suggest you to dream about your ideal life, I can't stress enough the importance to stay realistic in that ideal life. I'm 32 and I could not realisticly dream about turning 18 or become a queen of beauty... on the other side, I could realisticly dream about:
These are just examples about what could become MY dream life and I want YOU to think about what is important for YOU, your family, your passions... no matter what the stereotypes are in 2013. To reach that level of conscious, I suggest you to take time to visualize your dreaming life 5 minutes each day... Try to feel it as if it's already happened, feel the satisfaction, the pride, the success, the improvement and the positive consequences of that dream. Believe in your ability to build what YOU need for your life. Take care Ladies, Love u. Do not forget to share, like and comment that post. I'm so happy to help you on your journey. Photo credit: the data mining blog www.thedmblog.wordpress.com Hi Ladies,
I used to use my sundays as a day of assessment... I try to know what was great during the past week and what was wrong... Even this is a fantastic tool, it also could become overwhelming when you do not have enough confidence in your skills. When we examine a problem with a lack of inner peace or inner self esteem, we want to find a solution that could explain everything... As a consequence, we have the tendency to focus only on what we know: ourselves. It seems to be a good idea but if we take a look closer, we'll see that our mind will lead us to a bunch of irrational thoughts. Here is a example I had to deal with: I've asked for help because I was really stuck in a tough situation and this is the 10 times that this so called friend refuses... At the same time, that same friend and I argued because I was unable to help him... At the end of the week, I had the feeling that I should feel guilty about my friend.. I should have helped hime no matter what... until I realize that the most valuable relationship does not imply to compromise myself with somebody that act like a fool. In fact, I made a wrong assessment because I thought that the failure of that friendship was ONLY my fault... WRONG!!! As tough as it is, I'm convinced that we could not give more that what we receive.... a friendship follows that rule! We should not be the one who is always supportive, kind, funny, ready to help... the one you could wake up at 3 AM because you want to talk about your cat... and at the same time, no one has to give everyting without receiving the same kind of treatment. Friendship is not a one way relation... and you should never feel guilty about who you are, about your qualities, your skills, your passions or your goals. Today's lesson is about acceptance and tolerance with YOURSELF... do not be afraid by your unicity, celebrate it, embrace it... if somebody doesn't respect who you are as a person, then let him go and move on your way... You deserve to be surrounded by positive people not by vampires... Take care Ladies. Love u. Feel free to share, like and comment... Hi Ladies, It's finally the week end.. My boyfriend is back from his holidays, the sun is going away and I'm freezing cold... brrrr Today's lesson: According to my experience, one of the biggest problem I have to deal with implies FEAR... A "normal" person is able to remember the good things or the success when time is tougher.This ability is a fantastic tool for these persons because it helps them to rationalize what happened and what they could do to improve their situations. Yet, I have to admit that I am NOT a normal person... When my life is hectic or erratic, I feel completely lost and miserable... just as if my whole life was about to flip out. I tend to become irrational and I'm losing my ability to think clearly about what could be done. Even your close friends are unable to help you because they do not know your feelings, your struggles, your strentghs or your fears... A couple of years ago, I remember that it was usual for me to sit in front of a mirror to cry... I felt so sad, lost and miserable... until I realize that my only issue was my FEARS. I was afraid of almost anything from success to failure or being loved, being rejected... Noone was ready to help me because I was not ready to help my own soul. Suddenly, I decided to change and after a lot of trials/errors, I'm glad to share with you some tools I've built:
Disclaimer: begin by little fears then move to your bigger issues. If it is too tough or scary, do not hesitate to ask for help from a practitioner. Love u Ladies. Take Care. Feel free to share, like and comment this post. See you tomorrow Credit photo: www.christianity-and-the-confusion.com (I do not have any link with any website I cite...I just mention the location of the picture) Hi Ladies, It's already Friday, the week end is on the corner... You feel the incredible sense of accomplishment, you may be back from holidays and you are so excited to see your colleagues in a couple of days... How lucky you are!!! Yesterday, I challenged you to schedule your time to be fully efficient at the beginning of September... I have to admit that I was not as successful as I should in my own schedule... I slipped into a huge amount of tiny tasks to perform.... You know that.. the tasks were no so urgent but if you accept to do it, it will provide such a huge help for your friends or your family... It is not a reason to give up MY goal or to erase my major goals... I've just learn to be more flexible and more importantly to avoid feeling guilty or ashamed by my own failure. Today's lesson is about acceptance and pride. I will push you to do the best you can do each day, I will tell you how to enhance your level of confidence and to become more efficient/kind/ .... (fill the blank with what YOU need) BUT I will never ever let you think about you as an uncapable woman. The reason is obvious BECAUSE IT'S WRONG!!! You are amazing, brillant, creative, funny, gorgeous, charming.. and you don't have to beat yourself up to improve who you are. If you are a Type A like I am, you may have the tendency to compare yourself with high achieving women who seem to succeed in each part of their lives without making effort.. They are still well dressed, perfectly healthy, with high tech make up, wonderful shoes, a kind husband and 2,5 perfect kids... The fact is, YOU are UNIQUE so you can't be as those women.. you have to be proud of who you are and do not regret or feel miserable because you do not reach their levels of life mastering. Concentrate your strentghs about what you want and what you are trying to change in your life. Take care Ladies. Love u. Feel free to share, like and comment!! Hi Ladies, How do you do? I felt amazing today no matter what happened this morning... Nothing could attain my happiness. As you know, yesterday was my birthday... I took a day off and I spent a fantastic day surrounded by all my dear friends and my amazing mum. It's now time to face the reality and be ready to live a productive year. Today's lesson is about time/priorities/schedule... As a famous type A person, I'm unable t say "no" in front of a new task or ready to give up a new project that makes my brain runnning like a horse... Yet, I also have to deal with my daily routines, my tasks, my duties, .... and at the end of the day, I realized that I do no have time to do what I really want. I feel like I'm slipping into an overwhelmed routine that does not sustain a healthy lifestyle. In that situation, I do not have the luck to read, to draw, to paint, to workout... just as if my needs were less important than my "to do list". This won't happen this year anymore!!! That's why I'm gonna share with you some tips I will implement in my life to live in accordance with my needs AND find time to reach my major goals:
I'm gonna follow these advice and tomorrow I'm gonna share my schedule with you or at least my thoughts about the difficulties to build it. Feel free to tell me how you will organize your schedule. Take care Ladies. Love you. Hi Ladies, How are you? I can't stressed enough the joy to be back on track (which means: i'm not sick anymore... went through a tough bronchitis)... Today is a really special day because I have so many reasons to be thankful for:
I'm taking a day off to celebrate my birthday but I'm still thinking of you... Let's take some time to celebrate who you are, your past success, your actual tiny and huge victories, your family, your friends... just you!! Love you all. O. Credit photo: www.123rf.com Hi Ladies,
What's going on??? After more than two months of seasonic allergy... at least thousands of tissues... I felt better until yesterday afternoon... a cold/flu!!!! Holy Molly... I can't believe it.. I feel sluggish, dizzy, grumpy...absolutely unable to workout or move at a speed pace... As a consequence, I'm sorry ladies but.. today's lesson is so simple: when you are sick, take a rest to feel better... |
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